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09-06-2008 4:41 PM
TamaraM1003015
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What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
I'm a second time dad and never quite figured this one out the first time around. When my wife is doing a late night breastfeeding, what should I do? Do I have to get up and keep her company?
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09-10-2008 2:07 PM
CooperCC
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
Hello,
I am not too sure what you do before she starts feeding, but my husband helps out before I start. He gets up when the baby cries, changes him and then brings him to me to nurse. After I am finished I put the baby back in the crib and the cycle starts all over again. There is not much you can do while she is nursing, most of the time I am doing it in the dark while half asleep, so I am not too sure if your wife wants to talk at that time or not. Some of my friends who nursed were fully awake while they nursed their babies so everyone is different. The best thing to do is to ask her how you can help. It may be as simple as getting her some water to have ready if she gets thirsty.
Good luck,
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09-12-2008 12:57 PM
DestinyP2
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
I can say the same. When baby wakes up at night to feed, my husband gets her out of her bed. Sometimes, I sleep so soundly knowing he will be the one to listen for her, that he has to wake me up. My husband is the one who changes her diaper either before or after she feeds, and then he swaddles her and puts her back to bed. While baby is feeding, he usually dozes off, which is completely understandable. I really appreciate his attentiveness and involvement in the late night hours! I think you and your wife can figure out a night time team approach that can work for the both of you, and help everyone get a little bit more rest along the way!
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10-09-2008 3:28 PM
trey1983
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
It's nice to get up and help her because she will or might need you to get stuff for her. Congraulation's on being a second time. This is my third time dad. So if you ever need some some advice just write me and I'll see what I can can do to try and help you.
Third time dad and your friend
Trey Dobson
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10-15-2008 1:44 PM
mrsbryant
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
my husbend sleeps so good that he don't even get up, but he takes care of her from the time he gets off work and bed time. while i sleep or clean up thing that i couldn't while he was at work. but it is hard for first time parents trust me katy is or first and we both are really young (19 and 21). And we still have alot to learn.
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12-02-2008 9:56 PM
Badger55
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
This is number 5 for my wife and I and needless to say it's been different everytime. The more we had the more she let me sleep. Granted I went to bed later and later the more we had. I normally get up and take the others to school and do somethings around the house in the morning while she tries to catch up on the "Z"'s. I do get up to change the poo and such and normally try to stay awake for a little bit to give her some adult company and conversation. Though I often fade off after a few minutes. Basically, do what you feel you need to do. If you feel like you should stay up and "chat" then do so. Some great conversations have occured between my wife and I during those times when I was able to stay awake. When all else fails, ask your wife what she thinks then COMPROMISE.
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12-21-2008 5:29 PM
Momma Love
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
You don't have to, but it would be nice to keep her company and help her get things she might need. Like water for herself, a burp cloth, things like that.
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12-23-2008 9:53 AM
KThornhill
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
Personally, I help with the nightshift even though I work all day. I get up and change the baby, get water, burp cloth, and such to give her as much rest as possible before passing the baby to her for feeding. I can then snooze until the next time. It gives her a much needed rest and only disrupts my sleep pattern a little. I thought that this was going to really effect me during the day, but it has not (so far). On those nights that he will not sleep well, my wife will do a little more so that I can get a bit more sleep. We help each other so that neither of us is doing all the work. Not only does it make nights go smoother, but it helps our relationship.
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12-24-2008 12:33 AM
dadnmomof3_2008
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Re: What to do when mommy's breastfeeding at night?
Hi,
I am a breast feeding mom, and I am on my third. Hubby does not even hear the babies cry, I am on all the night duty, whether I have to go into work the next morning or not. On occasion he will be up or wake up when I am feeding, and he will massage me while the baby nurses. How Heavenly!! this is the best contribution he could give at that time. Talking is out since too much noise might make the baby think it is awake time, but rubbing moms shoulders does not require sound. A drink is nice too...but I just alway had a thermos loaded with ice water before I went to bed so it was ready at any time I needed it, AND it stayed cold through the night.
Also, when everyone is awake, it would be nice to hear that you are grateful she nurses the baby, and you know how important it is to the babies health. Flowers for mom to feel like a woman, and not only a mom would be great too.
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